Sleeping with the Boss Affairs, Love Sex in Numbers

Sleeping with the Boss Affairs, Love Sex in Numbers The phrase sleeping with the boss is certainly a loaded one. Just a rumor of an employee sleeping with the boss is enough to bring forth a ton of questions, and it can change the workplace environment not always for the better. Having a personal relationship with co-workers can be complicated, and it can be an even bigger deal if its with a superior.While some jobs discourage employee dating, and some explicitly disallow employee-supervisor relationships, there are still boundaries that exist regardless of the rules at any one workplace (for example, sexual harassment guidelines say that sex cant be used as a condition of employment or promotion).However, sleeping with the boss is not an unprecedented phenomenon. We examined the workplace dynamic through the eyes of over 1,000 employees regarding these sexual relationships and their outcomes. Lets take a look at the possible professional and social outcomes of sleeping with the boss.Seduced by a SuperiorFirst, we looked at how many respondents were hit on by either a co-worker or manager. Over 35 percent reported theyd been hit on by a colleague, while only 9 percent said that a manager had tried to woo them. However, a solid 27 percent said theyd been hit on by both, and 28 percent said no flirtation had been attempted by either a colleague or management.Next, we divided up the responses by gender to see if mens and womens experiences differed at all. More women than men, for example, reported theyd been hit on by both managers and colleagues, while more men noted theyd never been hit on by either. And there were almost two percentage points between men and women when discussing whether theyd been hit on by a manager or other superior with more men than women affirming. Also, men were 32 percent more likely than women to think that it was fine for a manager to sleep with the employees under them.Finally, we looked to see if there were any variations in response by industry. For those who had never slept with their boss, a little more than half of those in the construction industry were cool with the possibility, while less than a quarter of those in government or public administration roles cited it was A-OK. It turns out that women are definitely underrepresented in the construction industry they only account for around 9 percent of the total construction workforce. This could be a factor in the views of the industry as a whole, at least in regards to getting busy with the boss.Reactions to RelationsWe then asked respondents if (at any point in their career) they knew of a colleague who had slept with the boss. A whopping 58 percent said yes.We followed that question up with another what would you do if you found out one of your co-workers had gotten busy with the boss? Most people said they would do nothing over 64 percent, in fact, would keep that information to themselves. However, not everyone would be keen to stay mum. Sixteen percent said theyd dish to another colleague, and a little over 11 percent would actually send an anonymous tip to their HR department.The less-frequently cited responses were even more direct and interesting, with around 6 percent saying theyd attempt to sleep with their colleague, 4 percent attempting to blackmail their boss, and a little more than 3 percent posting about it on social media. What factors are behind those who are interested in sleeping with their colleague who slept with the boss? Are they hoping for leverage in the business, or do they feel that this fact make their co-worker more attainable?Also 40 percent of employees admitted theyd been attracted to their manager or other superior at some point over the course of their career but hadnt acted on it.Mixing Business and PleasureWere now getting to those employees who have slept with their boss. Our survey results found that 28% employees had done the deed with their boss. Twenty-seven percent of women and 28 percent of men polled said they have slept with their boss.While you cant be certain of the reasons behind this gender disparity (nor the sexual preference of those involved), perhaps male bosses are less likely to initiate contact with their female subordinates specifically due to fears of sexual harassment complaints (although both men and women can be the victims of sexual harassment). Also, studies have shown that men tend to over-inflate their sex partner estimates, while women tend to keep more concrete track of their partners.We also looked at the different management levels to see if there was any divide between them in regards to workplace sexual shenanigans. By far, those who identified as general managers were the most likely to engage in this activity (roughly 34 percent), while associate-level employees were right behind them (around 26 percent). The least likely management level to engage with their employees on a very personal level were entry-level managers (approximately 19 percent).Finally, we checked out which fields were the most likely to see employee-management rendezvous. Overall, the hospitality and food services, technology, and wholesale and retailfields were the top three industries for sleeping with the boss. Those in government and public administration were the least likely to sleep with their boss.Flattery in the CubiclesAs weve discussed above, there is a very fine line between sincere, work-appropriate compliments and sexual harassment, and crossing that line can be risky, especially for those in a supervisory position. What may seem like a compliment to an underling can in fact be offensive or construed as harassment, so it's vital for bosses to keep compliments sincere and performance-based.The No. 1 most commonly cited clue (reported by nearly 55 percent of employees who slept with their boss) was that the boss was constantly joking and flirting with them. The next most common occurrence was a lot more direct: Around 50 percent said their boss invited them to hang out outside o f work.Other common indicators included playful or sensual body language (46 percent), physical contact (44 percent), frequent compliments (33 percent), and 28 percent reported their boss showed them preferential treatment.Job BenefitsA multitude of reasons exist as to why employees choose to sleep with their boss. Interestingly, men were twice as likely than women to sleep with their boss with the hope that it would eventually lead to a promotion. However, the top reason cited for getting together with a boss was simply sexual attraction (cited by over 66 percent of respondents). A close second was because they wanted to have a good time (52 percent), and nearly 22 percent said they felt power was attractive. Twenty percent admitted that both parties were drunk during the experience.The less common reasons seemed to involve hopes for additional benefits. Twelve percent said they slept with their boss so they could receive a pay raise, and 11 percent were after a larger bonus the s ame amount was also hoping for a promotion. Around 10 percent slept with their boss to receive additional vacation or sick days, and 8 percent hoped to help a colleague get a raise, while 7 percent slept with their boss to help a friend get hired.What Happens After?Now we know why people slept with their boss. However, we have to know what happened as a result. Interestingly, the most commonly cited result was that the employee had another hookup with their boss (40 percent), so the first get-together wasnt an isolated event. And a pretty big chunk of people over 25 percent said they wound up forming an intimate relationship with their boss, with 22 percent noting their bosss attitude toward them changed for the better.There were other positive effects from this situation, including a pay raise (15 percent), promotion (13 percent), and a larger bonus (8 percent), but it wasnt always good news. Some reported that their colleagues started rumors about the tryst (11 percent), HR had to get involved (just shy of 8 percent), and 3 percent shared that they received a demotion as a result.Mixing Love and WorkFinally, we wondered how workplace romances affected the relationship between the two parties the boss and his or her employee. While the personal outcome of a workplace romantic moment can vary, so too can the professional relationship. Fortunately, its mostly good news, with over 51 percent saying the relationship stayed the same, and 34 percent stating that it took a turn for the better. Same goes for job satisfaction and stress level most respondents who slept with their boss reported that everything stayed the same or improved.There is one interesting note with stress levels though while roughly 45 percent of respondents noted their stress level remained the same, the rest of the respondents were split between more stressed and less stressed. This could be due to the varied nature of office romances and how individuals react to changed relationships. Ev en if the professional relationship doesnt change, it can still be stressful to deal with any real or perceived fallout (especially if one party is hoping to keep the encounter a secret).Gettin Busy at WorkWe found that sleeping with the boss isnt entirely uncommon, as 28% respondents reported that they had done just that. The reasons for doing so were pretty varied, and while some may argue that getting a charge to notice youre interested in them may tiptoe the line of sexual harassment, our poll takers shared that the outcome, for the majority anyway, was mostly A-OK.However, while there is a chunk of folks who do sleep with the boss, remember that most dont. And while the outcomes are often neutral or beneficial, there is a percentage of people who dont report a positive reaction once the deed has been done. Some people may also find it easier to leave their place of employment as a result of their tryst, so exploring brand new work options (and beefing up that resume) may be on their radar.Methodology and LimitationsThe findings presented in this campaign were gathered by administering online surveys via Amazons Mechanical Turk. To qualify for the surveys, participants had to be currently active in the workforce. For this study, our team conducted three separate surveys: One exploring perceptions of sexual relations and flirtations in the workplace, one to determine the percentage of employees that slept with their boss, and one inquiring about the reasons and outcomes of sleeping with their boss. The graphics showcasing the top reasons, top outcomes, and change in life quality after having sex with the boss had a minimum sample size of 233 respondents who said they slept with their boss. If respondents answered an attention-check question incorrectly or entered inconsistent information, they were disqualified from the survey.To determine any change in professional relationships, job satisfaction, and stress levels, participants were asked to rate their pr ofessional relationship, job satisfaction, and stress level before sleeping with their boss and after sleeping with their boss. Respondents were presented with seven-point scales to rate each factor. Based on this order, our team determined if one scenario resulted positively, negatively, or remained the same.Sourceshttps://www.doi.gov/pmb/eeo/Sexual-Harassmenthttps://www.monson-ma.gov/sites/monsonma/files/uploads/sexual_harassment_policy.pdfhttp://www.chicagotribune.com/news/opinion/commentary/ct-boss-capitol-hill-women-gender-chaperone-perspec-0520-jm-20150519-story.htmlhttps://hrdailyadvisor.blr.com/2018/03/20/office-romances-fallout-breakup-can-cause-headaches-road/http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/sc-fam-what-is-sexual-harassment-1121-story.html#https://www.bls.gov/opub/reports/womens-databook/2016/pdf/home.pdfhttps://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2018/07/26/why-men-report-having-many-more-sexual-partners-than-women-study/#443c75d434f5Fair Use StatementDo these graph ics strike a chord? Have you experienced an office romance, or find our poll results mind-boggling? 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Fighting Vacation Temptation

Fighting Vacation Temptation Last month marked my 1 year wedding anniversary. We celebrated by taking a trip to Napa Valley, California with a group of friends. The trip was one of those bucket list experiences I will never forget, but the time leading up to the trip made me think carefully about how traveling can really de-rail healthy habits. I left for the trip during a stretch of clean eating and devoted kettlebell workouts. I could feel my body changing and my habits starting to form. I liked what was happening, but I know myself all too well: would my healthy habits survive a trip full of amazing dinners, wineries and late nights? I wrote more about my trip and the experience here and put together 3 common travel slip-ups to avoid. Hopefully the post will help you maintain good energy (and healthy habits) no matter where your travels take you! And in the meantime, here are some photos from our trip!

Taking good care of a family is relative

Taking good care of a family is relative In response to my musings about what it means to be a blogger who is just a blogger, Alexandra Levit sent me an article about bloggers who support themselves blogging. I read it twice. Then I started checking out all the blogs, trying to uncover the secret of the million-dollar blog. Here is what I uncovered: Heather B (who is truly a wonderful writer) is cited in the article as bringing in enough money to allow her family to live comfortably. But it turns out that she and her husband recently participated in a study where they get injected with whooping cough so that they can get $50 and a free tetnaus shot. I know that everyone has a different idea of living comfortably. But I happen to know the guy who wrote the article for Business 2.0 hes my old editor. And Im certain that he would not be comfortable in the whooping cough study. This reminds me of something I hate: Articles about women that focus on the dual acheivment of doing well at work and with kids. We never hear from the kids. We never see the inner workings of the household. What does it mean to do a great job with kids? Its all relative. All self-reported. Its all BS. In fact, I did a followup on one of these stories. I looked up an article from Working Mother from a few years back one of those articles about How I successfully balance home and work. I called the woman to find out how things are going with her business and her three school-age sons. I interviewed her and her teenage son. I was appalled at how little time she spent with the son. And then he said hed never want to be like his dad because his dad (Fortune 500 COO) was always at work. I couldnt even bring myself to write about the family using their names because it was so bad. And the woman continues to believe that shes doing a great job balancing work and family. I put these topics in the same category: Reports about bloggers who live comfortably and women who do a good job at both work and home. Its all subjective and relative and hearsay. Useless information.

Job Promotions Come From a Few Right Words From the Right People - Personal Branding Blog - Stand Out In Your Career

Job Promotions Come From a Few Right Words From the Right People - Personal Branding Blog - Stand Out In Your Career You see, right now, private conversations are taking place in secret sessions. Behind closed doors with shades drawn, management muckity-mucks sitting in high-back leather chairs are thinking hard about you and a smattering of your competitors. One person is enthusiastically singled out with the confirmatory statement, “He’s different.” Someone asks, “What do you mean?” and the muckity-muck answers, “He fits in, but he stands out from the rest too. He does more, gets more out of others, knows more, cares more, and is more.” Those few words carry significant ramifications in your work life, usurping the university you attended, companies you’ve worked for, titles you’ve held, and any other personal or professional pedigree attached to you. A few of the right words from the right people spoken at the right time can make or break your career. You and I do what we can to make that happen, but sometimes we are the windshield and sometimes we are the bug and all we can do is continue to put more effort out. _____ Debra Bentons latest book, The Leadership Mind Switch: Rethinking How We Lead in the New World of Work (McGraw-Hill, June, 2017) is available on Amazon.

6 Ideas for Managing Your Team More Effectively - CareerMetis.com

6 Ideas for Managing Your Team More Effectively Have you recently been promoted or tasked with leading a team? That’s great!What’s not so great is if the team you have been tasked with overseeing areisnot functioning properly. For a first-time manager or leader of a team, dysfunction can be the source of much stress and despair.Although being tasked with leading a team can be exciting and a great learning experience, your life can very quickly be turned on its head if your team areisnot working together efficiently.evalWhen you take over a team, it is important to learn how you can best manage the individuals within it and the team itselfoverall. If your team is dysfunctional and not working together properly, you will need to act fast in-orderin order to get it back on track and working efficiently again.It takes a little hard work to get your team working with each other again, but it is well worth the effort.#1: Host Project Management MeetingsRegardless of whether your team is functioning properly or not, a major role you are going to play is the arranging and hosting of project management seminars and meetings.In a competitive global market, businesses must deliver projects which are innovative and establish the company’s name as an industry leader.Project management seminars can also be a great way for you to get your team back on track. These seminars are highly-focused and take place in an environment where the company’s best interests are the primary goal.This is a great environment in which you can promote cohesion between the members in your team and get everybody working with each other towards a common goal.You can find a range of courses on findcourses.com, including project management courses.#2: Remove the Bad EggsevalIn any dysfunctional team, there are typically a few key people who are causing all the drama and standing out for the wrong reasons.Since you are responsible for a dysfunctional team, don’t give a second thought to getting rid of these people if you can and if they do not buck their ideas up.Get rid of them as soon as you can. Although this sounds quite harsh, the drama, time, effort and energy it will save you in the long-term is well worth it; if a problem causer wants to be that then they have no place in your team and you should make that known to them in no uncertain terms.As soon as you have gotten rid of the personThis only really works if there are key personBy being relatively absent and not getting much face-time with your team, you are inadvertently promoting dysfunction because your team members will feel as if nobody is in charge and nobody cares.The best managers out there understand the importance of having a visible and vocal presence within their teams and will often find time each day to check in with individuals within their team.You should not be sitting on the sidelines and hoping things run smoothly. We can guarantee that if you do this, they most certainly won’t.#5: Host Team Building ActivitiesTeam building eventsare a great way for your team to get together and mingle in a more relaxed social setting.Team building events should be special activities which are hosted infrequently â€" perhaps once every month or so â€" and focus on fun, energetic activities which everybody will enjoy.evalWhen team members get a chance to bond with each other socially outside of the office environment, they are more likely to work better together in the office environment.Team building events enable your team members to develop friendships with each other, friendships which otherwise would not have happened, and they are great for blowing off steam and forgetting about the stresses of work.Work hard, play hard is how the saying goes, and teams who regularly participate in team building have much stronger bonds, work better together, and produce better results.#6: Performance ReviewsYour team members cannot improve if they are unaware of the areas in which they are lacking.Performance reviewsshould be held periodical ly â€" like team building activities â€" and will serve as a thorough look at your team members’ individual strengths, weaknesses and quality of work.Members of your team can only rectify their shortfalls if they know exactly where they are going wrong. The very best managers will make time for frequent performance reviews and see them as an important part of keeping teams operating smoothly.People respond well to good feedback and validation, and a performance review is a fantastic way to do this even if you have to bring up some negatives and highlight areas for improvement. They are motivating and give your team members individual goals which they can work towards.Taking over the reins of a team can be both rewarding and challenging, but more-sochallenging if you are taking over a team which comes with its own inherent problems.A dysfunctional team has been the undoing of many a manager, but with the right attitude and approach to your new team, there is no reason why you canno t get them back on track and working together properly again.There are many methods you can use to try and do this, but an organic approach which looks at the problem pragmatically and works to find a permanent solution is the best way to go.All team-related issues have their causes which can quite easily be solved. Just remember that it is your responsibility as a team leader to solve these issues before they start having an impact on the company itself.

How to be Interview Ready

How to be Interview Ready You only get one shot at making a first impression. Small mishaps that might be overlooked if they happen occasionally when you are already an employee are considered big mishaps during a job interview where there is no previous behavior to compare the interview behavior to. Here are 5 things to remember on interview day.Arrive at the interview destination 10-15 minutes early. Cutting it too close to the scheduled time or showing up late gives the impression you are unreliable. You may need the extra few minutes to go through a security check or wait on a long line in the companys lobby to receive an entrance pass.  Or you may need the time to find a parking spot. But dont arrive too early. Arriving 30 or more minutes before your appointment time can make the hiring manager uncomfortable.Turn off your cell phone. This shows courtesy and demonstrates that the meeting is very important to you.Pay attention to your body language. Maintain eye contact (without having a creepy stare), le an a bit forward rather than back, keep your arms uncrossed (crossed arms may subtly communicate you are not approachable) and avoid distracting behaviors like change jingling and hair twirling.Ask questions. An interview should be a conversation, not an interrogation. Asking questions helps build the rapport and trust between a candidate and hiring manager and it helps the candidate uncover valuable information about the employer’s needs. It is best to ask questions during the interview rather than at the end.Reiterate your interest in the job. Make sure you let the hiring manager know that you are very interested in the job and reiterate why you are a good fit.All of these behaviors help suggest your interest and enthusiasm for the position and help position you as a strong candidate.

How to Write a Great Resume For Dubai Jobs

How to Write a Great Resume For Dubai JobsResume writing for Dubai - the most recent UK and Ireland resident who have to look for a job here - should be free of English grammatical errors, so that is something that must be checked before writing the resume. Resumes are usually produced on paper, but for this job, the applicant should write on the computer.This should not be a problem since it is not difficult to use Microsoft Word, which has the features needed in this job. A bit of practice should also help. There are plenty of sample resumes available to download from the Internet.All the major companies will accept English resumes that are written in Microsoft Word and are signed in Arabic, but a copy should be sent to a company official to check the spelling. The HR personnel who handle the resumes will determine if a resume should be sent as a regular document or in an email.The format of resumes should include English language, contact details, and a work history. It is essenti al to include personal details such as date of birth, nationality, religion, marital status, education, professional experience, and job titles.Personal details will vary according to the needs of the job applicant. It is a good idea to include a brief biography if you have them.Before the applicant writes his or her resume, he or she should ensure that it has been saved in Word, or a search engine, or both. These days, the use of a search engine on the Internet is easier than ever, with most resumes being emailed within a day or two.The employer will be able to look at the document at any time and see any personal details that you may have omitted, including phone numbers and emails. It is important to make sure that your CV is a complete and accurate one, especially when it comes to details such as employment history and your social security number.When completing the resume, make sure that you include all the necessary information as well as any special skills, skills acquired, e ducational qualifications, languages used, or family background details. It is always best to have everything written in English because of the country's extensive immigration laws, and all required information should be included.